"Hate it or love it, the underdog’s on top and I’m gon shine, until my heart stop. Go ahead and envy me." ~ Fifty Cent
It's human nature to want to belong and be accepted, so many of us, often alter ourselves to be part of the group, whether personal or professional. Why? Because it’s uncomfortable to be praised and see the envy in the eyes of people you care about. You can probably deal with negative co-workers or associates that say “Oh you think you all that?” But when it comes from the people close to you, it's hard to not care about what they think.
For you, the relationship is more important than the kudos. So, to fit in, or not make other people feel bad, may of us have dumbed down our light. What you have to accept is, you have been blessed with talent. You have put in the work. So, you deserve, to be acknowledged for who you are.
You shouldn't feel like you have to apologize for your greatness. Period. You are a star. Your work, performance, style, presence, is stellar. It is what it is. It’s not your fault that you’re brilliant. You are who you are.
The sun doesn’t dim because it hurts people’s eyes. Why should you?
Here are 3 ways to not deal with this:
1. Accept You You were designed by a master architect to manifest something great in the world. You have to believe that deep down in your spirit. That's the first step. Belief is at the root of all our actions. Below your challenge to shine your light, lies a level of doubt and insecurity. You have not fully absorbed, your awesomeness. When you fully receive this fact, then it will enable you to comfortable in being yourself, no matter where you are.
2. Breath Courage The next the time you feel nervous about being your full authentic self, observe your breath. You will notice that your breathing has become shallow or shaky. You are experiencing fear. To combat those feelings, stand up straight and take a deep breath. As you inhale, imagine the air as energy that is making you stronger. As you exhale, feel weakness leaving your body.
3. Stop Being Selfish Most of the time, it's not that people can't deal with who you truly are, it's 'you' who is unable to handle it. Perhaps your are a people pleaser, have fear of abandonment [which makes you afraid to be your authentic self out of fear that people might not like you and leave] or are just repeating behavior you saw growing up in your environment. Whatever the reason, they are all based in selfishness. I challenge you be real for the people in your life. When you live in your truth, you inspire other people who, too, may be struggling with their own expression. What has helped me in times like these, is repeating the words of Nelson Mandela “There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that others don’t feel in secure around you…when you shine your light you give others permission to do the same." Have powerful and productive week!